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How to Deal With Differences in a Marital Relationship

It is a well-known fact that conflicts in a romantic relationship are inevitable and specially in a committed relationship like marriage its all natural to happen. Every relationship is different thus has its own ups and downs, and conflict are a part of it that are ment to occur in the territory. However some married couple might successfully avoid conflict by learning from past experiences as they see the end of their parents’ marriage or conflict leading to bitter disputes.

But as per some psychologists sometimes avoiding conflict may also backfire in intimate relationships, as bottling up negative emotions, thoughts and feelings to avoid conflict does not allow you or your partner to change the behavior. 

This is why it it importnat to learn healthy ways of conflict resolution. In a marital or romantic relationship one can learn to choose resolving conflicts wisely by differentiating between unimportnat and important issues that need focus. Except this we are sharing here some other ways to deal with such differences and avoiding conflicts with your partner. 

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· Build a quite and peaceful atmosphere and spend qaulity time with your spouse on a regular basis so that you both can communicate about your desires and intentions in an easy manner.

· Do not give up your hobbies and interests or the the things you love that make you happy. Persue your personal goals as this will help your self growth and self-esteem and only a happy you can make others happy. 

· Even if you both do not share same interest, you may still support one another’s interests. Respect the needs of your spouse even if its a need for space for example - it can be a vacation without you, etc. 

· Both should know how to resolve conflicts in a healthy and careful way. You may consider taking help of a marriage counselor in that. As many psychologists suggest that putting all the resentments inside or aside while carrying in heart can destroy a relationship. Lots of couple try to avoid conflict and take the risk of having stagnant relationships, which puts them at higher risk of divorce.

· Create a healthy and unrestricted communication. Listen carefully to your spouse's requests and you can later ask for clarification where needed. Avoid using rough and harsg words and threats. 

· Avoid blaming each other and take responsibility for your role in a conflict. Accept your mistakes as every human being make mistakes and its natural. So next time if you or your partner feel angry with you, see inside yourself and reflect before you place any kind of blame on them. 

· Give you words about a time-limit for change. It may take more than a few attempts to begin the process of change so just make sure when you commit for anything to change in yourself you also take action on that. 

If you fail to deal with the differences and it seems youare not able to handle conflicts anymore, do not hesitate to go for  marriage counselling for couples by professional therapists. Therapist or relationship counselors help youunderstand your relationship with your partner in a healthy way by actively helping you to work on it to improve.